• The Secret of Prayer - Part 1

Prayer Changes Everything

People often ask me why their prayers seem to go unanswered. To answer this question, we first have to ask ourselves, what is a prayer? A prayer is a thought that possesses the quality of directed intention. It’s holding a specific outcome in our minds with the objective of connecting to a greater power for assistance. Because prayer and faith tend to go hand in hand, we next need to ask ourselves, what is faith? We could say that faith is believing in thought more than anything else—more than the current conditions in our present-personal reality or any challenges in our external environment. The intersection of faith and prayer probably needs to be addressed at this point. When used together to produce a specific outcome, we could say that when we get up from our prayer as if our desired outcome has already happened, we are in the right state of mind and body—in other words, we’re in a new state of being. Let’s take a step back for a moment and look at the process of prayer.

Let’s say that we see certain circumstances in our life, or someone else’s life, that seem to be undesirable. When we anticipate a familiar scenario, we’re able to forecast a predictable outcome. In fact, we begin to expect a future worst-case scenario in our mind, and as we do this, we can feel the negative emotions (emotions based in the hormones of stress) before the actual event occurs. Now we’re anticipating a future outcome based on a past experience, but it’s not the possible outcome that’s upsetting us. It’s the correlating emotions of fear, anxiety, frustration, anger, suffering, sadness, or pain that really make the biggest impression on us. At times like this, many of us turn to prayer.

For most people, prayer begins as a thought in our brain. That thought then creates a stream of thoughts, and because the brain is an anticipation machine, we can see a highly probable reality unfolding, so we begin to see a better alternative outcome in our mind. As we do this, we start to imagine a better future experience. Because our brains are wired to create, we can naturally do this. This is called an intention. Next, when we put ourselves in the scene of our prayer, we start to feel the emotions that correlate to the fruition of that prayer (the thought in our mind becomes the experience, and the end-product of that experience is an emotion). As a result, our brain and body start to live in the future—in the present moment. Humans can do this so well that we can feel the emotion of that reality ahead of the experience. This occurs because we automatically start to create scenes and images of what we may experience when our prayer comes to fruition.

The problem starts when we open our eyes and don’t immediately see our prayers answered. And so while we may initially live in the emotion of our prayer while we’re praying, when we come back to our senses and open our eyes, we see that our prayer has not yet materialized, or worse—appears to be unanswered. This is when we start to feel doubt, lack, and separation from that very thing we’re praying for. As a consequence, we try harder, pray harder, force, wish, beg, hope, and plead with God, source energy, or whatever you want to call the creative energy of all that is. We do this because that’s what separation creates. Our senses fool us into believing that we are separate from our creation. Now we’re not only separate from our creation, but we’re separate from the very intelligence with which we are attempting to connect.

While many people possess the intent of their prayer, many others miss the corresponding emotions that go with it. Once they have lost the feeling or emotion, they are back in lack, and each time they do this they are creating from a state of separation—instead of a state of connectedness, wholeness, love, and oneness. If thoughts are the language of the brain and feelings are the language of the body, and how we think and how we feel creates our state of being, it makes sense that mind and body are in opposition. The mind is holding the intent but the body is saying, “It’s not happening.”

So how do we change that? It requires us to really open our hearts and feel gratitude as if our prayer has already been answered. Why? Because gratitude is a state of receivership. We give thanks when we are receiving something or have already received it. When we do this properly and enough times, we start to feel the emotion of our future, and the more we feel that emotion, the more our body becomes conditioned to that feeling.

The result is that each time we get up from our prayer as if our prayer has already been answered—that is to say, in the feeling of the fruition of our prayer—the aftereffect is that we try, force, and want less because now we are in a new state of being. In a sense, we feel as if it has already happened.

What is happening in this process is that we are moving closer to wholeness, instead of lack or separation. Now we are no longer trying to predict the when, where, or how the answer to our prayer is going to happen, because we feel like it already has happened. This is how we make room for the unknown. Now a new possibility that we haven’t thought of can manifest in our reality. This is how we move from living in the Newtonian world of the predictable and the known to the quantum world of the unpredictable or the unknown.

In this work, we don’t pray to have our prayers answered; we get up as if they are already answered. The key to this skill is to maintain that state of being independent of the conditions in our external environment. To remain in this state independent of past habits and emotions stored in the body—which have been programmed to be the mind—and to maintain that new state of being independent of time, is to move beyond the illusion of what our senses are telling us and into in a whole new reality in our mind. In short, it’s not so much about saying that prayer as it is living the prayer.

To read Part II please click here.



  1. Kris September 15, 2018 at 3:30 pm - Reply

    Thank you.

  2. Pam September 15, 2018 at 5:31 pm - Reply

    Love this! Thank you! Can’t wait for Part 2, surrendering,let go, trust!

  3. Terri September 15, 2018 at 8:31 pm - Reply

    “Living the prayer”….love those words!

    • Jen Irurita September 17, 2018 at 3:03 am - Reply

      I’m with Terri ~ that phrase leaped out for me too ~ what a beautiful summary for this work in three short words!

  4. Sonya Sun Heart September 16, 2018 at 1:31 am - Reply

    I am the living prayer living the prayer; so very grateful to be here now as my life unfolds in divine time aligned with divine will! 🙂

  5. shamjithlal September 16, 2018 at 12:13 pm - Reply

    thank you…

  6. Maria Bajada September 16, 2018 at 3:08 pm - Reply

    Dr. JOE, I honestly declare that…Nobody’s words have ever touched my heart and healed my soul as much as yours do!!!

  7. Leda Lu Muniz September 16, 2018 at 4:21 pm - Reply

    Brilliant as usual to remind us what this work is about: to live the prayer as it already happened .To become it ! Grazie !

  8. Naz September 17, 2018 at 12:16 am - Reply


  9. Sharon September 17, 2018 at 9:36 am - Reply

    love your work!! inspired everytime!

  10. Enfys Jones September 17, 2018 at 8:41 pm - Reply

    Inspired to change. Thank you.

  11. Daron Duffield September 17, 2018 at 10:01 pm - Reply

    Such wise words i am in awe. Thank you.

  12. Patricia September 18, 2018 at 5:11 am - Reply

    Living Love … Thank you for your Clarity and all you lived to get the Gift.🌿💚🌿

  13. Aita Outlaw September 18, 2018 at 12:19 pm - Reply

    This is absolutely THE best description of prayer I have ever heard. Thank you so much for all the work you are doing that is making profound differences in people’s lies. I CAN’T wait for part 11.

  14. Niken September 19, 2018 at 12:48 am - Reply

    I woke up this morning and believing that there must be someone frow tho other side of the world can teach me something precious. And you did.

  15. Edwin D. Delacruz September 19, 2018 at 1:09 am - Reply

    ^_^ Wow! I cannot wait (hey, is that impatience?) for Part II where you’ll discuss what it means to surrendering to our prayer, let go, and trust.(Y)

  16. Pamela September 21, 2018 at 3:18 pm - Reply

    Like many others I love “Living the prayer” love you Dr. Joe!!!

  17. Penny Snyders September 22, 2018 at 9:30 am - Reply

    Thank you – infinitie appreciation for all you share

  18. Gaby September 22, 2018 at 9:51 am - Reply

    Thank you, Dr. Joe!!!!!

  19. Miriam September 22, 2018 at 9:59 am - Reply

    It can’t be better explain it.
    Waiting for the second part.

  20. Rahmey September 22, 2018 at 10:06 am - Reply


  21. Bonnie September 22, 2018 at 10:11 am - Reply

    Thank you so so much, you have the most beautiful way to connect with people, calming us, uplifting us, comforting us and making us go all excited to trust and try a bit more.

  22. Joss September 22, 2018 at 10:32 am - Reply

    IAgree in most parts – however I have experienced a unnatural stress in emotionally jumping into a state of “it has already happened / it is already reality” –
    Whenever I feel “bad”, I prefer to first accept that condition in me and my body – and then I fully accept myself for myself being in that feeling … and starting from there, I can smoothly walk into other more positive states of mind and body …

  23. Rosario September 22, 2018 at 10:43 am - Reply

    Lo que más me gusta de ti, Joe, es que las cosas más complejas las explicas con palabras y conceptos certeros y comprensibles y te apoyas siempre en el razonamiento y la reflexión de la realidad que vivimos en nosotros y los descubrimientos de la ciencia, unificando Gracias de corazón. Te veré en Valencia de nuevo.

  24. Ed Brown September 22, 2018 at 11:15 am - Reply

    I literally woke up and found just what I was looking for. And that in itself was an answer to a prayer. Thank you Dr. Joe. And thank you God.

  25. Donna September 22, 2018 at 11:15 am - Reply

    Thank you for this, Joe… How wonderful to consider that everyone praying on the planet can make this shift… Including me… Looking forward to part II.

  26. pamela September 22, 2018 at 11:16 am - Reply

    Love this…. Love you! 💖

  27. Catherine September 22, 2018 at 11:24 am - Reply

    Inspiration to live my prayers! . Thank you for all you do to share deep heartfelt wisdom. Creating a happier world together as more humans begin to understand our potential. Thank you, thank you, thank!

  28. TM September 22, 2018 at 11:38 am - Reply

    When you’ve surendered, trusted and let go for a condition you’ve had for 18 years and there’s no improvement, it must surely be time to lose trust in trust.

  29. Christine September 22, 2018 at 12:14 pm - Reply

    Thanks for this reminder, really needed it now – just this morning I woke up with an uncomfortable feeling which I now realize was the feeling of lack and separation which I have worked myself into by reminding myself that my manifestations haven’t arrived in my 3D world. Well no one said it will be easy but I know I can master it – other people did it, so I can do it, too!

  30. Sean September 22, 2018 at 12:20 pm - Reply

    Man you touched my heart this morning Dr Joe! I so needed this email to shift alot of sadness and pain and your words went through me like a lighting bolt and awakened some beautiful thoughts and emotions which I am basking in! I love God so much but feel so disconnected from him of late but this morning he has blessed me with your teachings and showed me how to not just pray but “LIVE MY PRAYERS”! Thanks a ton Dr Joe for your awesome heart to to teach us all how to live our best life’s…. keep spreading the love!!

  31. Barbara Najar September 22, 2018 at 12:38 pm - Reply

    Beautiful! Just what I needed this morning. I’m learning to maintain a state of joy despite outer circumstances and letting that joy and gratitude carry the day and that the outcome is not what is key here it’s the process of surrendering and allowing gratitude to infuse me with exuberance!

  32. Sue September 22, 2018 at 12:46 pm - Reply

    An absolutely wonderful definition of prayer. Truly inspiring. Thank you, Dr. Joe. 🙏🏻

  33. Judi September 22, 2018 at 12:50 pm - Reply

    Love this! Thank you for reminding us.

  34. Linda September 22, 2018 at 1:01 pm - Reply

    Thank you…easier said than done ….but worth trying…I shall give it a go….

  35. Lorraine September 22, 2018 at 1:06 pm - Reply

    Thank you so much for this. I really needed to read this today x

  36. IraFromSyosset September 22, 2018 at 1:38 pm - Reply

    I hope you don’t mind … I re-posted your post on my blog. I have been very inspired by your work since I first came across you at Hay House. With Blessings, IraFromSyosset

  37. Randy S September 22, 2018 at 1:46 pm - Reply

    Perfect! Perfect in every way, thank you and most grateful. Outstanding. Love and gratitude to you my dear Dr. Joe. See you soon!

  38. Mary Raymond September 22, 2018 at 1:51 pm - Reply

    Thank you for bringing this way of thinking and believing to the world. I used this method on mysel
    To gain a healing from interstitial cystitis. It worked I am cured,,

  39. Shelley September 22, 2018 at 1:54 pm - Reply

    Thank you Dr. Joe. I have so much to say, but will leave it at thank you. Good timing for this topic!

  40. Fatiha September 22, 2018 at 2:06 pm - Reply

    Thank you ,there is difference between visualisation wishes and prayer that help us see our goals (new one ) based in.new creation invention and process .
    Yo be able to be in this state Dr Didpenza we need reach higher self (consciousness ,Not everyone is or can be in same state as you or any higher state of. Onsciousness ,if readers are bigeners in process of becoming like you maybe prayer or meditation or any way to see the realisation of the future is steps before next next ….maybe be it’s the growth process based in different culture and traditions or habits .
    To become what you are talking is not Open or possible to all this is in my opinion just for high CONSCIOUSNESS people .
    I’m into it and understand what you are talking about because I made huge sacrifices in my life to be in this state ,it’s not open to people that follow their distractions pleasures of life as you know it need abstinence from many things ,it require acquiring our own self ,mean become lonely ,working very hard less social life more learning studying and people that have kids family and lots distractions maybe they are in levels different than this state .

    It’s not everyone in this case can achieve it now ,we need considered this as levels of learning process this is for mastering maybe we can talk about different levees of CONSCIOUSNESS ,every one has it but with different levels .

  41. Carol Weinberg September 22, 2018 at 2:59 pm - Reply

    Thank you! I love this.

  42. Janet Robillatd September 22, 2018 at 3:07 pm - Reply

    Beautifully worded. Thank you for describing this connection. It takes me deeper. Xoxo

  43. niki September 22, 2018 at 3:19 pm - Reply

    Coming to our senses IS what pulls us out of the moment. It is a delicate balance to live in this body and still be in the present moment without anticipation and doubt. Living prayer. Love it.

  44. Kiara September 22, 2018 at 5:15 pm - Reply

    Thankyou dear Dr Joe . I can feel the Truth of your teachings in my soul. Thankyou For your passion wisdom and generosity. Wish you such joy and love and every good thing.

  45. Ken Ackerman September 22, 2018 at 5:31 pm - Reply

    Dr. Joe, You are in my Noble Friends contemplation each and every morning as one of my valued teachers. “Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself” – gotta love it!, although I have not yet read it. The title says it all, as does “You Are The Placebo”

    You are one of my valued teachers – a Noble Friend in this lifetime.

    More later.

    Ken Ackerman

  46. Mary Ann Smeraldi September 22, 2018 at 5:47 pm - Reply

    Thank you Dr. Joe for reminding me that what my body feels is not as important as what I know about the healing that is coming my way from my prayers of Atonement. I can rest in knowing that my prayer is heard and answered in perfect timing as I have willingly surrendered to God all that I have done to separate me from Love. That is the only time un-wellness can live in the body so I am sure that I am healed in spirit. The promise of physical well being is taking place right now … and now… and now….. Thank you … looking forward to your next article. You are a master teacher and I am grateful beyond words for having found your work.. Loved “Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself” Thank you & Namaste’…..

  47. Melanie E. Fisher September 22, 2018 at 6:07 pm - Reply

    Thank you so much. You always explain in ways that I can clearly comprehend.

  48. Petr September 22, 2018 at 6:17 pm - Reply

    You are doing for people on this planet so much ! Awesome, briliant work. There is no other way then understand and follow …. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us !

  49. Margarita LLamazares September 22, 2018 at 6:24 pm - Reply

    Yes, yes we are already our prayers answerded….we are already the joy of living in Love. Thanks

  50. Liliana Loether September 22, 2018 at 7:09 pm - Reply

    So clear and wise!

  51. Cathy Preston September 22, 2018 at 7:59 pm - Reply

    All the best to us all… Thank You Dr. Joey <3

  52. Jan Marsh September 22, 2018 at 9:23 pm - Reply

    Thank you so much for your comments about prayer. I have been thinking a lot on this subject for some time and now you have confirmed what I have been investigating. I love how things come at the right time.
    I am so very grateful and happy to be on track.

  53. Tonya Vannabouathong September 22, 2018 at 9:55 pm - Reply

    This was great, cleared up a lot for me, Thank you.

  54. John Goodridge September 22, 2018 at 11:14 pm - Reply

    Great article. Thank you. Zooming in on prayer is fascinating; lot of ground covered here. Much to consume (not least coming to terms with our shadow side). Meditate on it i will!

  55. thomas Feld September 22, 2018 at 11:15 pm - Reply

    Does this hold true to believe in a Prayer that theres no evidence of proof? I thought it did. Now I am slipping into wondering if my Ego was in separation from my heart and Soul. I am wondering if that separation caused me to believe in a false belief. I am not sure what to specifically vision anymore aside from Wholeness, Order and Coherence. Do you all find that to be enough? I thought they teaching is to create a general but Symboled Creation.
    I would appreciate insight.

  56. Christina September 22, 2018 at 11:26 pm - Reply

    Yes, Dr. Joe, we can choose worry as a prayer, or we can choose something we want with the same emotional level, to want it as much as you don’t want something else. God listens. Thank you for your tireless work, honestly, I marvel at how you do what you do at the pace you do it, truly super-dupernatural!

  57. Ola kuye September 23, 2018 at 12:18 am - Reply

    I truly love your training. I just came back the near death experience. And I truly align with your teachings Dr. Joe. I will put my experiences together one day. Thank you

  58. Vincent Golingham September 23, 2018 at 8:44 am - Reply

    Can you suggest me, how to pray for financial miracle ?

  59. John Cantu September 23, 2018 at 9:56 am - Reply

    Thank you for this invaluable information, Dr. Dispenza. It is truly amazing how you figured this out, and I am very grateful that you cared enough to share.

  60. Jane September 23, 2018 at 10:56 am - Reply

    Love this,

  61. Sue September 23, 2018 at 11:21 am - Reply

    I absolutely love this analysis of what a prayer is. Dr. Joe, you’re the best. Thank you for your simplistic style of writing. 🙏🏻

  62. Suzy Almushcab September 23, 2018 at 6:04 pm - Reply

    Amazing summary of a true truth of reality that if we are to simply allow our selves to live the moment of receiving our prayers or our desires as if it’s happened with gratitude . Thank you Dr joe for your constant enlightenment , contribution and encouragement of us being in oneness and as creators of whatever we focus our minds on 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼.
    Sending you love and kindness 💚💚

  63. Theresa Buede September 24, 2018 at 1:24 am - Reply

    Your wisdom always falls on my spirit like a gentle rain that nourishes the earth! Thank you. I love to embrace each day feeling the magic of each moment as it unfolds knowing that my future already exists in the quantum field of possibility.

  64. Lauren Tripp September 24, 2018 at 3:06 am - Reply

    Nice – such an excellent reminder of how coherence works! Get the mind and body together and we live in the world of answered prayer!
    Namaste Dr. Joe!

  65. Lauren Tripp September 24, 2018 at 3:07 am - Reply

    Such an excellent reminder of how coherence works! Get the mind and body together and we live in the world of answered prayer!
    Namaste Dr. Joe!

  66. jermayne williams September 24, 2018 at 10:53 am - Reply

    How can one pray for a limb to be re-grown? Can it ever happen?

  67. Sherman Cheeks September 25, 2018 at 6:12 am - Reply

    Thank you, Dr. Dispenza, I needed to hear this. It has answered a very deep question as to why my prayers regarding finances have not happened – – because, though I have prayed for finances, in my “heart” has been the “emotion” of ‘disappointment’ from the “past”. So, though, I know it’s there in the quantum realm, and I know I can have it, and that I deserve it because I am a child of God – the past pains have held me back. So, in effect,,, I wasn’t really ‘believing’ that it’s so, though I want it and know it exists for me.

  68. Felicity Lerouge September 25, 2018 at 9:37 am - Reply

    The feeling is the prayer. Thank you. It’s my intention to stay in gratitude and love, today, and see what shows up from the quantum field.

  69. Lan Tang September 26, 2018 at 2:11 pm - Reply

    Yes!, Yes!, Yes! I am the living prayer!!!! Thank you so much to be here. Love!!!!!

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